The account of “The Patriarchal Family” in Human History” by the famous Catholic historian Christopher Dawson concludes that without enough fathering a culture always dies in a few decades. It is almost too late to reverse the demographic collapse of families in Western culture and the end of our civilization. What happened to our Dads? Yet we must not despair. When we look back it becomes clear that the revolutionary Christian marriage vows reformed the patriarchal family structure. This is the way back. These vows dedicate spouses completely to each other, while honoring Dads as the indispensable foundation of moral authority in a marriage and thus in society.